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I never really thought about my convictions even though I knew what my religious convictions are; I always thought every other thing would stem from there. But as the values of the world are evolving, and we are faced everyday with new social challenges, I ask myself: what are my true convictions, what would I fight against, what does truly matters for me and what don’t, if was facing a dilemma, what option would I choose and why?
I realized that it is important to know now than facing a situation where you are totally confused. The danger in not knowing is that you start to embrace the convictions of others which are not necessarily yours, maybe it’s your parents, your friends or colleagues’ but it’s not yours. Having your own convictions began by challenging what you already know and see if fits with you current values. I say current because this might change over time, as you grow older or getting more maturity.
So, my goal now is know what my true convictions are. This is going to be interesting because, I love to have my own opinions about things, I want to know myself better and learn how to fight for what I believe in. That doesn’t mean that I am not open to others opinions, I am, because I love to learn from others.
What are your convictions? What do you think it’s worth fighting for?
As I was preparing for a wedding, I noticed I didn’t mind leaving my camera at home. A year ago, I wouldn’t have left home without it, feeling that I had to capture every moment. The pictures I took during social events are located somewhere on my laptop and most of them I don’t need. So, why did I take them in the first place?
Well, to be honest I’d say it was to do as everyone else. To show others there were things going on in my live. But as some point, I felt overwhelmed.
Because if I didn’t bring my camera, it was like I was not part of the event and this prevented me to “be there” each time. I was too busy taking pictures rather than living and enjoying the moment.
And secondly, I had to always make sure that I looked flawless in those pictures because, of course, I’d be posting them on those famous social networks. And I hated that because it made me feel self-conscious.
Ever since I’m not following this trend, I’m able to enjoy each moment and I don’t feel like I need the world to know about it.
I do take a few pictures that are really meaningful to me and which do not have the sole purpose of showing my new dress or that I have been to Mrs. or Mr. X party.
Have you ever felt pressured to follow social trends?
“And become nothing to you? Am I a machine without feelings? Do you think that because I am poor, obscure, plain and little that I am soulless and heartless? I have as much soul as you and full as much heart! And if God had blessed me with beauty and wealth, I could make it as hard for your to leave me as it is for I to leave you. I’m not speaking to you through mortal flesh. It is my spirit that addresses your spirit. As if we’d passed through the grave and stood at God’s feet equal. As we are!”
Is it only me who believes that this is the best quote in a romantic movie? I’ve been watching “Jane Eyre (2011)” and I love it!
I’ve never read the book (shame on me!) but I think that the movie is quite good.
Have you watch the movie? What do you think of it?
I have watched recently the documentary: Deborah 13: Servant of God and it raised a few questions and thoughts in me. I’d like to share them with you:
1- First of all, in the documentary, when the reporter ask the girl if she doesn’t know Victoria Beckham and Britney Spears, I asked myself why are we so obsessed with other people’s life, why some people wants to know the last dress Victoria Beckham bought, Britney Spears new boyfriend, which “star” was arrested for drug possession or speed-driving, which one went to rehab, or which one got divorced? It goes as far as stalking and harassment. I rembember a youtube video where a young woman spend all time fantasizing about Robert Pattinson and cried hysterically when he broke up with Kristen Stewart. Again, why are we so obsessed with other people’s life? Does it means that our life are not meaningful enough? Don’t get me wrong, it is ok to be interested to other people, this is why we read biographies, watch movies, etc, but we why aren’t we curious about Aung San Suu Kyi first boyfriend or what brand her clothes is or where does she buy fruits, but are dying to know where Beyoncé shops her lingerie or who is Chris Brown new girlfriend?
2- I have read the comments below the documentary, there are plenty of positive comment but some commenters blame her father for raising her like that saying: “their ignorance pervades everything”, “it is all grounded on fear. Fear of God. Fear of the outside world. Fear of people. Fear of being hurt or offended or seduced (by watching some inappropriate media). Fear of life itself”, “she is indoctrinated”. So, those people think that because she has been raised in “strict Evangelical Christian” home, that she is missing out on what the world has to offer, she is being indoctrinated. What should be normal then? That she had smoked her first cigarette, had sex, went clubbing every night, went to parties, knew the celebrities name by heart, watched soap operas, had earphones stuck on her ears, spent her days gossiping on facebook, twitter and the like? Is that the world definition of an average teenager?
What does the Bible says about raising children:
– “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22: 6
– But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work. 2 Timothy 3:14-17
– “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4
3- The documentary make it seems like Deborah’s family is an exception among the world’s other families, at least from my view. It’s like they are a bunch of aliens living on the fringes of society. It seems that Christianity, (or should I say belief in the Most High God) is becoming something that once was but no longer is the norm, it is fading to leave place to new beliefs, new ways of living, humanity have shifted its beliefs. The Bible said : “But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.”
If you’ve watched this documentary, what are your thoughts about it?
Oh, baby with your pretty face
Drop a tear in my wineglass
Look at those big eyes
See what you mean to me
Sweet cakes and milkshakes
I am a delusion angel
I am a fantasy parade
I want you to know what I think
Don’t want you to guess anymore
You have no idea where I came from
We have no idea where we’re going
Lodged in life
Like two branches in a river
Caught in the current
I’ll carry you. You’ll carry me
That’s how it could be
Don’t you know me?
Don’t you know me by now?
Poem from the movie “Before Sunrise” by David Jewell
Recently, I overheard a conversation where a man told a girl that one of his friend was “dreaming about her”, the girl seemed pleasantly surprised but said “that is not appropriate”. Another man who was present said: “On the contrary, that is a good thing. you are his fantasy. You should be proud about it because you are saving this guy marriage. If he cannot go through with his wife, he’ll think about you.” It seemed something very funny because everyone laughed.
I did give it some thought and said to myself, this is not normal. But who am I to define normal? With all sexual tendencies in the world, all kinds of depravity, what is normal? Well let’s just imagine we are in a “normal” world.
So, here we have a girl who has sensual power over a man, a man who is fantasizing about another woman and…the poor wife. Yes, the poor wife, the third wheel of the carriage. Poor wife, because while her man may not be adulterous, he is dreaming about another woman, which is practically…the same thing.
So at this point, people will start telling me that it’s ok for men to fantasize about other woman, that women does it too, for example when they see Ryan Gosling’ sexy abs.
Why it is so difficult for men (especially) to stay attracted to their wife? Marriage should not be based on physical attraction SOLELY but I believe it’s a MUST to be aroused by your husband or wife. Because if each time you are making love, he or she has to think about someone else to heat things up, we have a problem here.
Men fails to see their wife as their mistress, because a mistress is like the forbidden fruit, it’s tempting, delicious and exciting. So Wife, why not try to be your husband mistress?
Your husband should be impatient to return home to literally crawl in your arms, not thinking about this hot girl in the office he would like to….
Why be ashamed of going wild with him because last time we checked, you are married meaning you have the legal right to do whatever you feel like doing. If a mistress is willing to make him feel good in-any-possible-ways she can think of, why not you?
Why not surprise him with that sexy negligee so his jaw will drop? Why not take this warm bubble bath with him after a hectic day of work? Why not share your fantasies with each other? Men should encourage their wife to be intimate with them, to share their true feeling. Why your wife should be the boring daily meal and your mistress the exotic cocktail or delicious dessert?
Women, claim your right to be your husband mistress. Show that man you can surprise him beyond his expectations. Be your husband fantasy!