Be strong now!

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Don’t wait until something bad happen, Be Strong Now!

Don’t wait until someone dies, Be Strong Now!

Don’t wait until there is no way out, Be Strong Now!

Don’t wait until that particular deadline, Be Strong Now!

Don’t wait until that specific age, Be Strong Now!

Don’t wait on that particular person, Be Strong Now!

Don’t wait on that coveted status, Be Strong Now!

Don’t wait until you gain that knowledge, Be Strong Now!


Don’t wait for acceptance, Be Strong Now!

Don’t wait until you feel like it, Be Strong Now!

Don’t dwell on self-pity, Be Strong Now!

Don’t listen to your fears, Be Strong NOW!


Yes, this second!

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I believe in…

I never really thought about my convictions even though I knew what my religious convictions are; I always thought every other thing would stem from there. But as the values of the world are evolving, and we are faced everyday with new social challenges, I ask myself: what are my true convictions, what would I fight against, what does truly matters for me and what don’t, if was facing a dilemma, what option would I choose and why?black-woman-thinking


I realized that it is important to know now than facing a situation where you are totally confused. The danger in not knowing is that you start to embrace the convictions of others which are not necessarily yours, maybe it’s your parents, your friends or colleagues’ but it’s not yours. Having your own convictions began by challenging what you already know and see if fits with you current values. I say current because this might change over time, as you grow older or getting more maturity.




So, my goal now is know what my true convictions are. This is going to be interesting because, I love to have my own opinions about things, I want to know myself better and learn how to fight for what I believe in. That doesn’t mean that I am not open to others opinions, I am, because I love to learn from others.


What are your convictions? What do you think it’s worth fighting for?


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The Church Girl Demystified

Have you ever experienced this embarrassing moment where something fun is going to happen and they ask you whether you want to participate and someone says: Nah, she is a “church girl”. It might not be the exact term but something like: she is not that kind of person; she is not interested (i.e. interesting) and so on. Well, I had my share of “church girl” moments.

And one of them happened recently where gathered with a small group of people, someone mention the term “church girl” popped up ( referring to me), saying that there are certain things that I wouldn’t do and certain places I wouldn’t go.

You might honestly think: what’s wrong with that?! So let me tell you the real characteristics of the church girl:

–          You never dress sexy ( i.e. You are not interesting because you never show some more skin)

–          I know you are not interested to go to that party ( i.e. you are boring, you don’t know how to have fun)

–          Don’t talk that kind of stuff in front of her (i.e. you’ve been so sheltered that our conversations will shock you and therefore you will make us feel uncomfortable)

–          You are too prude ( i.e. you should get your freak on sometimes)

–          You don’t drink beer?! (i.e. you’re antisocial)

So now that I’ve told you the characteristics of the church girl, so according to this here is a definition: she is a Christian, a very spiritual person and she avoids the world’s pleasures (and that includes having fun with friends, going to a good concert, to the beach, talk about sex (Oh My! That’s a sin!))

I have also realized that most church girls are like me: introverts. To illustrate this, I remember during a class, there was this girl that was making her friends laugh so much and one of her friend said: And you’re supposed to be a church girl? (meaning: you’re too funny to be a church girl)

People assimilate someone who is spiritual with someone who is introvert, which is not true because the church is comprised of every type of people: introverts, extroverts and ambiverts.

I usually smile when people call me a church girl, sometimes, I’m tempted to tell them that they are completely missing the point but I always give up. Other times, I think they are being rude, because it’s like you’re being banned from a conversation because your “ears are too prude”.

Some might think that is ok because everyone knows you are different and as a Christian you SHOULD be different, you should stand above the crowd, and I agree with this. But this label has negative connotations because people consider you as antisocial, of course we do not belong to this world but we’re living in it, and most of the time , people  don’t take the time to know the real you because you have been labeled already, so what’s left to know?

One thing I know is that I’m proud of being a Christian, I’m proud to be called daughter of the Most High God, and this has nothing to see with my social ability to interact with people.  This makes me think that people usually don’t see further than the tip of their nose, unfortunately.

People need to understand that spirituality doesn’t mean confinement, boredom or seclusion; on the contrary, worshipers of God should be most of times joyful. Of course, Christianity always aspire to simplicity in life but that doesn’t exclude joy, happiness, fun, and interesting interactions.

People should not stereotype others because they are different, or because they don’t share the same point of view or they don’t have the same beliefs and values or because they do not fit in your circle.

Have you ever in been in such situation where you have been called a “church girl” or the like? How did you feel about it? How did you respond?


Random thoughts

A purpose

I cannot understand how something can spend his life or even a huge part of his life without doing nothing. I mean, wake up everyday, eat, watch tv or any unuseful activity, then eat again and go to bed. What’s the purpose of that kind of life?

Each day I go to work, then after I go to college but sometimes, I feel like slowed down as if the things that I am doing are not meaningful enough. Is it because that I am not doing what I should be doing, that I have not found my mission or purpose in life yet? I don’t know but something I want to do more, explore more, read more, love more, travel more, do a little EXTRA.

So, on the other side, we have people who are not doing anything. Don’t get me wrong, I know that are people who would love to do something with their lives but life conditions are so mean to them that they cannot find a job, afford college or pay for travels, etc.

But there are people who have the means to do something, even small, but they just don’t. How can you survive the same routine every day without any meaninful activities?


Routine  is a slow-killer

Talking about doing the same thing everyday, let’s talk about something that kills us slowly: routine. When I say kills us, I mean that it kills our creativity, it kills our spontaneity, it kills our sense of wonder, even our joy.

Take action against it!

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Another perspective

When you are dealing with a problem, try to view it from another perspective. Try to understand it from various points of view. Maybe it’s not that complicated that you thought or maybe it’s not that simple than you thought it is.


10 lessons life has taught me this year…

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This post might be premature as the year has not ended yet but no need to wait the end of the year to make review of what life has teached us.  As a matter of fact, first thing I learned is don’t always do things as they planned to be done. Sometimes, you have to break the patterns and do things differently.

2- God is Good All The Times. Never doubt this, whatever your circumstances may be, God is always good.

3-Be content with what you have now, dont wait for the future to enjoy life and what it has to offer.

4- Bless others. Don’t wait only on God’s blessings, you can also be a blessing for someone else. By being compassionate, helpful, encouraging, by speaking words of kindness, by praying for others.

5- “Never take someone for granted. Hold every person close to your heart because you might wake up one day and realize that you’ve lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones.”  This one is a good lesson that I will make sure to live by.

6- Through your walk with God, your faith might be tested. You have to be willing to make a giant leap of faith. God wants to help you but you might have to do something unusual or something that requires that you step out from your comfort zone. It might be a little hard, but the reward will be far greather than anything you’ve ever imagined.

7- Don’t take people’s point of view for granted, try to figure out things by yourself before making an opinion.

8- It is always good to review your priorities, renew your old thinking because as you grow up, you realize that things are not always as they seems to be or as they taught us it is. Don’t be afraid to step out of the crowd and fight for your beliefs because “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

9- Nobody’s perfect. Don’t expect perfection from people, only God is perfect.

10- Life is not a road with one direction. This is one of the most important lessons I have learned this year.  As a child, our parents have paved the way for us, and as we grow up, society wants us to enter in the mold specially prepared for us. Well, let me tell you that you do not need to follow the world’s standards. Dont stress yourself with what your parents or society think you should do but rather what God has planned for you.  Because at the end, the achieved result is what matters.

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The joy of decluttering

I was thinking about the progress I have made in self development and I am quite happy how it is going along well.  I have learned that I do not have to tolerate things that are bothering me and the best thing to do is to get rid of them and this applies to all aspects of life.

For instance, my wardrobe was full of clothes, hanging in a disorderly fashion and each time I got out from work and saw it , I knew I had to do something about it but I did not. Then, last weekend I finally decided to end its suffering, so I took all the clothes, and sort them, what I intend to keep and what I should get rid of or give away. After that, all the clothes that I kept I hung them in the wardrobe and I would swear I heard it say: Oh, My God, thank you, I am finally breathing! loool.

I also did some decluttering at work also, get rid of papers, stuff I did not need anymore, and I am more enthusiast to work now.

This is also apply in your social life, you do not have to be friends with everyone, specially the people that are always trying to bring you down, the hypocrits, the free riders and even some  family members, yes, if you see that they are having a bad influence, stay away from them.  Life is much better without them, trust me, the only person that is essential is JESUS.

The idea is to keep it simple in every aspect of your life, you do not need the whole wide world to be happy.


Be yourself, everyone else is taken. (Dr. Seuss)

Have you ever wanted to do something crazy, might be a simple thing but unusual?  Have you ever woke up one day and wanted it to be nothing but a normal day?  Wake up and instead of going to work, just pack some clothes and spend the day away?  Well, this is exactly the state I am in.

How many times have I broke the rules?  How many times have I listened to the wild child that lies within me? Not often. I had always been living by the rules because everything had to be straight, nothing fancy or unusual.  I’ve been doing the same thing every single day and now the child in me is getting rebellious.

Sometimes, I wake up and I don’t want to look like the average  young corporate employee, because this exactly how I look.  I am not trying to be someone else, I just want to be me. But I have been so into the rules that somehow I have lost track of who I really am.  I am not in a identity crisis but on a journey of self-discovering. The fact is I have always been doing what I was told but never done what I wanted to do.

I am so used to being that correct type of person that anything unusual that I would do would immediately be analysed by my peers.  Of course, they will try to find solutions to my “problem”, giving me advices on what they think would help.  But what  matters is who I really want to be. Will I choose to live by correctness or choose the spontaneous life that I am seeking for?  

Today I choose to be Me (My journey to being assertive)

As far as I remember, I always had hard times saying no to people. Part of it because I always wanted to please everyone but mostly because I am a submissive type of person.

I would try to please my parents by accepting everything they wanted for me because it was for “my own good”, my friends because I wanted to be accepted by them.

My education made it worse because I was raised with the knowledge that saying no was not convenient and one should always be nice to people. Failing to do so was considered as rebellious, so I started being nice to everyone. The result was me turning unto a nice zombie, always pleasing people and forgetting about my own needs.

That made me lose sight of my desires or what I truly wanted because I spent so little time thinking about it.

According to Dr. Robert A Rohm Ph.D. book Positive Personality Profiles, the  Supportive type ( that is me) is ” reserved, people-oriented individual will enjoy relationships, helping or supporting other people and working together as a team.” they are also : steady, stable, supportive, sweet (awww) but submissive and shy.

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It’s the submissive part that is annoying because according to Dr. Rohm’s book, because of  their lack of assertivity, submissive people tend to get into trouble because they cannot say no. 

This can be a struggle when you are fighting between what you truly want and your desire to please others.

But nowadays, there are countless materials that can help you learn how to be assertive, confident and positive about yourself. It is very important to also learn how to work on your flaws in order to transform them into strenghts. It is exciting to get to know who you really are especially when you have been buried under shyness and low self-esteem.

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 It is ok to be different from others, to have different point of views, different tastes, different goals. In fact, this is what makes that world bearable : our own diversity.