The Church Girl Demystified

Have you ever experienced this embarrassing moment where something fun is going to happen and they ask you whether you want to participate and someone says: Nah, she is a “church girl”. It might not be the exact term but something like: she is not that kind of person; she is not interested (i.e. interesting) and so on. Well, I had my share of “church girl” moments.

And one of them happened recently where gathered with a small group of people, someone mention the term “church girl” popped up ( referring to me), saying that there are certain things that I wouldn’t do and certain places I wouldn’t go.

You might honestly think: what’s wrong with that?! So let me tell you the real characteristics of the church girl:

–          You never dress sexy ( i.e. You are not interesting because you never show some more skin)

–          I know you are not interested to go to that party ( i.e. you are boring, you don’t know how to have fun)

–          Don’t talk that kind of stuff in front of her (i.e. you’ve been so sheltered that our conversations will shock you and therefore you will make us feel uncomfortable)

–          You are too prude ( i.e. you should get your freak on sometimes)

–          You don’t drink beer?! (i.e. you’re antisocial)

So now that I’ve told you the characteristics of the church girl, so according to this here is a definition: she is a Christian, a very spiritual person and she avoids the world’s pleasures (and that includes having fun with friends, going to a good concert, to the beach, talk about sex (Oh My! That’s a sin!))

I have also realized that most church girls are like me: introverts. To illustrate this, I remember during a class, there was this girl that was making her friends laugh so much and one of her friend said: And you’re supposed to be a church girl? (meaning: you’re too funny to be a church girl)

People assimilate someone who is spiritual with someone who is introvert, which is not true because the church is comprised of every type of people: introverts, extroverts and ambiverts.

I usually smile when people call me a church girl, sometimes, I’m tempted to tell them that they are completely missing the point but I always give up. Other times, I think they are being rude, because it’s like you’re being banned from a conversation because your “ears are too prude”.

Some might think that is ok because everyone knows you are different and as a Christian you SHOULD be different, you should stand above the crowd, and I agree with this. But this label has negative connotations because people consider you as antisocial, of course we do not belong to this world but we’re living in it, and most of the time , people  don’t take the time to know the real you because you have been labeled already, so what’s left to know?

One thing I know is that I’m proud of being a Christian, I’m proud to be called daughter of the Most High God, and this has nothing to see with my social ability to interact with people.  This makes me think that people usually don’t see further than the tip of their nose, unfortunately.

People need to understand that spirituality doesn’t mean confinement, boredom or seclusion; on the contrary, worshipers of God should be most of times joyful. Of course, Christianity always aspire to simplicity in life but that doesn’t exclude joy, happiness, fun, and interesting interactions.

People should not stereotype others because they are different, or because they don’t share the same point of view or they don’t have the same beliefs and values or because they do not fit in your circle.

Have you ever in been in such situation where you have been called a “church girl” or the like? How did you feel about it? How did you respond?

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1 Year!

Hahaha, I’ve just realized it’s been one year since I have this blog. I started Chrysalide in March 2012, upon my sister’s encouragement (Thank you R.M.) and blogging have been a real delight, allowing me to express and share my personal thoughts and peak inside other people’s world through their blogs.

Happy First Blogversary!
Happy First Blogversary!

Even though I have not been very active lately, it’s something to celebrate. I will keep blogging, and I hope to share more in the future.

But in the meantime, “Cheers!”

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Seek the wisdom of God

Lately, I’ve been very discontent with my life. The thoughts that were crossing my mind were: “I hate this life”, “I’m tired of this”, “I wish I could be elsewhere” and so on… Why was I so bitter?

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And it came clear to me. I failed to rest my soul on God. I failed to come to Him in prayer, to worship Him, so I ended up complaining about anything that wasn’t going well.

I feel like I’m dwelling in the same spot, and everytime this happen, it’s like God is telling me: My dear child, you are not moving at all, I want to help you not being stuck where you are but you just won’t let me.  And the biggest mistake you could make is believing you can do everything without relying on My Strength.

There are countless self-help books out there showing you how to be the best you but I’m telling you, you are your best you only through Christ. Only Him can make the necessary changes in your life.

Nowadays, everyone is its own god.  Everyone is creating their own beliefs, moving away than ever from God’s authority. Do not make this mistake. The world wisdom is not God’s wisdom. The world wisdom is fleeting but God’s wisdom is eternal.

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Random thoughts

A purpose

I cannot understand how something can spend his life or even a huge part of his life without doing nothing. I mean, wake up everyday, eat, watch tv or any unuseful activity, then eat again and go to bed. What’s the purpose of that kind of life?

Each day I go to work, then after I go to college but sometimes, I feel like slowed down as if the things that I am doing are not meaningful enough. Is it because that I am not doing what I should be doing, that I have not found my mission or purpose in life yet? I don’t know but something I want to do more, explore more, read more, love more, travel more, do a little EXTRA.

So, on the other side, we have people who are not doing anything. Don’t get me wrong, I know that are people who would love to do something with their lives but life conditions are so mean to them that they cannot find a job, afford college or pay for travels, etc.

But there are people who have the means to do something, even small, but they just don’t. How can you survive the same routine every day without any meaninful activities?

 

Routine  is a slow-killer

Talking about doing the same thing everyday, let’s talk about something that kills us slowly: routine. When I say kills us, I mean that it kills our creativity, it kills our spontaneity, it kills our sense of wonder, even our joy.

Take action against it!

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Another perspective

When you are dealing with a problem, try to view it from another perspective. Try to understand it from various points of view. Maybe it’s not that complicated that you thought or maybe it’s not that simple than you thought it is.

 

10 lessons life has taught me this year…

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This post might be premature as the year has not ended yet but no need to wait the end of the year to make review of what life has teached us.  As a matter of fact, first thing I learned is don’t always do things as they planned to be done. Sometimes, you have to break the patterns and do things differently.

2- God is Good All The Times. Never doubt this, whatever your circumstances may be, God is always good.

3-Be content with what you have now, dont wait for the future to enjoy life and what it has to offer.

4- Bless others. Don’t wait only on God’s blessings, you can also be a blessing for someone else. By being compassionate, helpful, encouraging, by speaking words of kindness, by praying for others.

5- “Never take someone for granted. Hold every person close to your heart because you might wake up one day and realize that you’ve lost a diamond while you were too busy collecting stones.”  This one is a good lesson that I will make sure to live by.

6- Through your walk with God, your faith might be tested. You have to be willing to make a giant leap of faith. God wants to help you but you might have to do something unusual or something that requires that you step out from your comfort zone. It might be a little hard, but the reward will be far greather than anything you’ve ever imagined.

7- Don’t take people’s point of view for granted, try to figure out things by yourself before making an opinion.

8- It is always good to review your priorities, renew your old thinking because as you grow up, you realize that things are not always as they seems to be or as they taught us it is. Don’t be afraid to step out of the crowd and fight for your beliefs because “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

9- Nobody’s perfect. Don’t expect perfection from people, only God is perfect.

10- Life is not a road with one direction. This is one of the most important lessons I have learned this year.  As a child, our parents have paved the way for us, and as we grow up, society wants us to enter in the mold specially prepared for us. Well, let me tell you that you do not need to follow the world’s standards. Dont stress yourself with what your parents or society think you should do but rather what God has planned for you.  Because at the end, the achieved result is what matters.

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If only we knew…

Do you know how many battles the Holy Spirit has fought for you?

Do you know from how much pain He has kept you from?

Do you know  how many accidents He spared you?

Do you know from how many humiliation He has kept you ?

Do you know from how many accusation He has defended you ?

Do you know how many tears He kept you from shedding?

Do you only know my Friend?

Do you?

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A Giant Leap of Faith

There are times, in your relationship with God, you have to take a leap of faith.

God is faithful, He always keeps his promises. So when He says I am going do something, He will do it, no matter how much time it takes.

In the meantime, you might have two enemies: doubt and desperation.

When you see that time is passing by and nothing is happening, this is when you start to doubt, when you doubt, you start having a negative mind set, and then you start losing faith in the promise.

The second thing is desperation. Do not become desperate. Things might not happen when you expected it to but God has an amazing plan for your life and you should trust Him no matter what.

God might want to test your faith, so you must at all time believe He can. Take a giant leap of feat in your life. Let God do it His own way.

God is the God of Possible.  In Him, there is no disappointment.

Stay blessed!

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