A few thoughts on Deborah 13: Servant of God

I have watched recently the documentary: Deborah 13: Servant of God and it raised a few  questions and thoughts in me. I’d like to share them with you:

1- First of all, in the documentary, when the reporter ask the girl if she doesn’t know Victoria Beckham and Britney Spears, I asked myself why are we so obsessed with other people’s life, why some people wants to know the last dress Victoria Beckham bought, Britney Spears new boyfriend, which “star” was arrested for drug possession or speed-driving, which one went to rehab, or which one got divorced? It goes as far as stalking and harassment. I rembember a youtube video where a young woman spend all time fantasizing about Robert Pattinson and cried hysterically when he broke up with Kristen Stewart. Again, why are we so obsessed with other people’s life? Does it means that our life are not meaningful enough? Don’t get me wrong, it is ok to be interested to other people, this is why we read biographies, watch movies, etc, but we why aren’t we curious about Aung San Suu Kyi first boyfriend or what brand her clothes is or where does she buy fruits, but are dying to know where Beyoncé shops her lingerie or who is Chris Brown new girlfriend?

2-  I have read the comments below the documentary, there are plenty of positive comment but some commenters blame her father for raising her like that saying: “their ignorance pervades everything”, “it is all grounded on fear. Fear of God. Fear of the outside world. Fear of people. Fear of being hurt or offended or seduced (by watching some inappropriate media). Fear of life itself”, “she is indoctrinated”. So, those people think that because she has been raised in “strict Evangelical Christian” home, that she is missing out on what the world has to offer, she is being indoctrinated. What should be normal then? That she had smoked her first cigarette, had sex, went clubbing every night, went to parties, knew the celebrities name by heart, watched soap operas, had earphones stuck on her ears, spent her days gossiping on facebook, twitter and the like? Is that the world definition of an average teenager?

What does the Bible says about raising children:

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22: 6

But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work. 2 Timothy 3:14-17

– “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4

3- The documentary make it seems like Deborah’s family is an exception among the world’s other families, at least from my view. It’s like they are a bunch of aliens living on the fringes of society. It seems that Christianity, (or should I say belief in the Most High God) is becoming something that once was but no longer is the norm, it is fading to leave place to new beliefs, new ways of living, humanity have shifted its beliefs. The Bible said : “But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy,  without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.”

If you’ve watched this documentary, what are your thoughts about it?

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The Church Girl Demystified

Have you ever experienced this embarrassing moment where something fun is going to happen and they ask you whether you want to participate and someone says: Nah, she is a “church girl”. It might not be the exact term but something like: she is not that kind of person; she is not interested (i.e. interesting) and so on. Well, I had my share of “church girl” moments.

And one of them happened recently where gathered with a small group of people, someone mention the term “church girl” popped up ( referring to me), saying that there are certain things that I wouldn’t do and certain places I wouldn’t go.

You might honestly think: what’s wrong with that?! So let me tell you the real characteristics of the church girl:

–          You never dress sexy ( i.e. You are not interesting because you never show some more skin)

–          I know you are not interested to go to that party ( i.e. you are boring, you don’t know how to have fun)

–          Don’t talk that kind of stuff in front of her (i.e. you’ve been so sheltered that our conversations will shock you and therefore you will make us feel uncomfortable)

–          You are too prude ( i.e. you should get your freak on sometimes)

–          You don’t drink beer?! (i.e. you’re antisocial)

So now that I’ve told you the characteristics of the church girl, so according to this here is a definition: she is a Christian, a very spiritual person and she avoids the world’s pleasures (and that includes having fun with friends, going to a good concert, to the beach, talk about sex (Oh My! That’s a sin!))

I have also realized that most church girls are like me: introverts. To illustrate this, I remember during a class, there was this girl that was making her friends laugh so much and one of her friend said: And you’re supposed to be a church girl? (meaning: you’re too funny to be a church girl)

People assimilate someone who is spiritual with someone who is introvert, which is not true because the church is comprised of every type of people: introverts, extroverts and ambiverts.

I usually smile when people call me a church girl, sometimes, I’m tempted to tell them that they are completely missing the point but I always give up. Other times, I think they are being rude, because it’s like you’re being banned from a conversation because your “ears are too prude”.

Some might think that is ok because everyone knows you are different and as a Christian you SHOULD be different, you should stand above the crowd, and I agree with this. But this label has negative connotations because people consider you as antisocial, of course we do not belong to this world but we’re living in it, and most of the time , people  don’t take the time to know the real you because you have been labeled already, so what’s left to know?

One thing I know is that I’m proud of being a Christian, I’m proud to be called daughter of the Most High God, and this has nothing to see with my social ability to interact with people.  This makes me think that people usually don’t see further than the tip of their nose, unfortunately.

People need to understand that spirituality doesn’t mean confinement, boredom or seclusion; on the contrary, worshipers of God should be most of times joyful. Of course, Christianity always aspire to simplicity in life but that doesn’t exclude joy, happiness, fun, and interesting interactions.

People should not stereotype others because they are different, or because they don’t share the same point of view or they don’t have the same beliefs and values or because they do not fit in your circle.

Have you ever in been in such situation where you have been called a “church girl” or the like? How did you feel about it? How did you respond?

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If only we knew…

Do you know how many battles the Holy Spirit has fought for you?

Do you know from how much pain He has kept you from?

Do you know  how many accidents He spared you?

Do you know from how many humiliation He has kept you ?

Do you know from how many accusation He has defended you ?

Do you know how many tears He kept you from shedding?

Do you only know my Friend?

Do you?

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Being a christian

 I grew up in a pentecostal church and as far as I remember, my mom always brought my sister and me to church every sunday and as a child, we did not truly understand what was  going on, we knew that we had to stay calm, be nice and not talk to much. My mom would taught us little prayers, bible verses and songs.

When I became a little older, I truly wanted to please God in any way I could, I prayed with sincerity, I was not getting myself into troubles because I knew that He was watching. Then, came the teenage period along with my spiritual and philosophical questionning. During this period I had doubts about everything, and wanted somehow to rebel. My teenage years were not too difficult and I manage to get out of it without any major damage.

I never thought about following other religions, I do not know whether it’s because I was too afraid of trying something else or because I loved where I was. I had questions and sometimes I was comparing my religion to others, thinking about “advantages”  other religions had.  

Now, that I am a young woman, part of my questionning have gone but some remains.  For example, I wonder if I had grew up in some other religion, would I have the same attitude, would I made the same choices? I doubt it , because I believe religion influences our choices but remember that the one who should influence our choices is Jesus. Only when following Jesus, we can make the good choices.

Being a christian is not a trend or an attitude, being a christian is a calling of the soul who long for something higher, something divine.  Everyone soul needs to be fulfill because an empty soul is dead.  Now, it depends on you to decide how are you going to fulfill your soul.

Being a christian requires that you fix your eyes on Jesus constantly, study His word, pray without ceasing.  Despite my choice to follow those wise words, I stumble so many times, mostly because I want to make my own choices, find solutions to my problems, and because I think that I can do everything by myself but this is just a big lie. I am lying to myself because even though I have some appreciable qualities, I am not a superhero. I need someone to have my back and the only one who does that perfectly is God.

Another mistake we always make is not knowing God’s will. We always pray about what we want but what about what God wants? His plans are much better than ours, even if our demands are legitimate, God wants to offer us more than what we ask for :

“Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, unto him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus unto all generations for ever and ever. ”  (Ephesians 3:20-21 ASV )

The best way to be a better christian is to let God work on us through the Holy Spirit and let His plan take shape in our lives.  He knows what our needs and desires and He got the best in store for us.

Poems

I am not really into poems but sometimes, there are some poems that really captures the essence of your soul. Below are my 2 favorites poems:

I am a Christian by Maya Angelou

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not shouting “I’m clean livin’.”
I’m whispering “I was lost,
Now I’m found and forgiven.”

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I don’t speak of this with pride.
I’m confessing that I stumble
and need Christ to be my guide.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not trying to be strong.
I’m professing that I’m weak
And need His strength to carry on.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not bragging of success.
I’m admitting I have failed
And need God to clean my
mess.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not claiming to be perfect,
My flaws are far too visible
But, God believes I am worth it.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I still feel the sting of pain.
I have my share of heartaches
So I call upon His name.

When I say… “I am a Christian”
I’m not holier than thou,
I’m just a simple sinner
Who received God’s good grace, somehow.

I think that this poem describe exactly my life as a Christian and I believe that other people can relate to this too.

 

SENSATION by Arthur Rimbaud

Par les soirs bleus d’été, j’irai dans les sentiers,

Picoté par les blés, fouler l’herbe menue :

Rêveur, j’en sentirai la fraîcheur à mes pieds.

Je laisserai le vent baigner ma tête nue.

Je ne parlerai pas, je ne penserai rien :

Mais l’amour infini me montera dans l’âme,

Et j’irai loin, bien loin, comme un bohémien,

                                                                          Par la Nature, – heureux comme avec une femme.

 

This poem is in French, I know, but translating it wouldn’t do it justice.  As reading the poem, you could feel the wind blowing on your head ( “ je laisserai le vent baigner ma tête nue.” ) and the peace that you feel when wandering in nature. Wonderful!    🙂